Waking Up to Narcissism

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They Didn't "Technically" Lie - How a Kernel of Truth is Weaponized

Ever lost an argument you know you should have won — but couldn't explain why? That's not a coincidence. It's a strategy called "The Pop." Tony Overbay, LMFT, introduces a powerful new framework for understanding one of the most disorienting dynamics in emotionally immature and n ... Show more

. 1h 4min

You're Not Bad. You're Carrying the Problem: Shame, Triggers, and Healing

"I was triggered" vs. "I chose"—what if both are true, and neither gets to the real problem? When a listener sent Tony a viral video challenging people to replace "I was triggered" with "I chose," it sparked a deeper conversation about accountability, nervous system science, and ... Show more

. 54min 9sec

Your Memory Has Been Turned Against You: Lying, Gaslighting, and Confabulation (Oh My!)

Your memory has been turned—and the double agent is inside your own mind. After years in a relationship with someone emotionally immature or narcissistic, the damage isn't just that they rewrite history. It's that you stop trusting your own ability to know what happened. This epi ... Show more

. 58min 57sec

Validation, Co-regulation, and Emotional Immaturity (with a Hint of Spirituality) w/Angela De Hoyos, ALC

What happens when your greatest strengths—your empathy, your willingness to self-reflect, your sensitivity—become the very tools someone uses to convince you everything is your fault? In this crossover episode with therapist Angela De Hoyos, ALC, Tony explores why validation feel ... Show more

. 52min 46sec

Flying Monkeys, Switzerland Friends & Narcissists, Oh My! Understanding Secondary Betrayal

Why do the people you thought knew you best stay silent—or worse, side with the person who hurt you? This secondary betrayal often cuts deeper than the narcissistic behavior itself. Switzerland friends insist on neutrality while your pain makes them uncomfortable. Flying monkeys ... Show more

. 57min 33sec