Rewards

We were told boundaries and connection sit on opposite ends of a dial. Slide toward strict and you get control but lose warmth. Slide toward gentle, and you get closeness but lose the floor. So we spend our days inching back and forth, guilty when we're too hard, exhausted when w ...  Show more

Most of us carry a quiet belief that we have to be everything for our kids. If the other parent isn't showing up the way we wish they would, we tell ourselves it's on us to fill every gap. To be the nurturer and the rough-and-tumble one. To make up for what they didn't get, so th ...  Show more

In this episode, we're challenging the conventional use of rewards in potty training. Rewards can be counterproductive, leading to entitlement and a reliance on external motivation, and can even become punishments when a child is not yet capable of achieving the desired be ...

Do your kids follow the rules you set, or is it a struggle for them to obey? While some children are more rules oriented than others, Dr. Randy Schroeder will speak with Jim Daly about why rules must be forged inside a healthy relationship with your kids. You'll also hear John an ...  Show more

Do you agree or disagree with Kirk’s shocking advice for handling a child who yells at his Mom and defies her authority? Learn why some kids shut down and aren’t motivated. What do you do when one child takes all of your energy and attention? How do you help kids who give up when ...  Show more

#160: In this episode, we explore the radical claims made by Alfie Kohn in his 1993 book Punished by Rewards. Kohn, an expert in education and psychology, argues against the use of rewards to incentivize behavior. For Kohn, such incentives cause people to lose intrins ...