I Got Into A Fight

Stop losing yourself to love. What if codependency isn't just about your relationships with other people, but your relationship with yourself? In this episode, John and Vanessa explore why recovering from codependency is really about building a stronger sense of identity. They ex ...  Show more

What happens when life forces you to start over? In this personal check-in, John Kim reflects on the unexpected lessons that came from rebuilding his life after losing his home. From learning to surf at 53 to finding clarity through travel and stepping out of survival mode, this ...  Show more

Ben spotted Josh Richards at the gym this week and is contemplating how to return a YouTube award to him?? The Oscars happened and Ben has a lot of thoughts on fighting. Tune in as he dissects the slap heard around the world and opens up about his own experience with fights. Twee ...  Show more

IN THIS EPISODE OF THE HUMAN UPGRADE you’ll learn how to recognize your own sh*t and be a better partner in relationships. 

Want a sustainable partnership? Communicate and apologize; fight without fighting; identify codependent behavior (your own); ...

Most people never consider that fighting can be a useful and healthy practice for our relationships — and that “fighting well” is a skill that can be learned. We resist conflict until it builds up and we reach a breaking point, and then BAM! Our trauma runs the show and we ris ...

I got really really  vulnerable in this episode!  I am giving you an example of conflict that I experienced with my partner. (aaaand it all started with a  couch. LOL. )   Luckily there is a happy ending and of course, I worked it out with him. But hey there were some juicy learn ...  Show more