I Got Into A Fight

Some of the hardest truths about relationships are the ones we spend the most time avoiding. I’m talking about the conversations that challenge the way we think about marriage, love, resentment, breakups, and even our own intuition. I start with a controversial idea: I think marr ...  Show more

In this episode, I reflect on what I’d tell myself 10 years ago about losing everything, rebuilding, and learning that security was never really about what I owned. I also share a story about a local surfer in Costa Rica who offered to teach me after watching me struggle in the w ...  Show more

Ben spotted Josh Richards at the gym this week and is contemplating how to return a YouTube award to him?? The Oscars happened and Ben has a lot of thoughts on fighting. Tune in as he dissects the slap heard around the world and opens up about his own experience with fights. Twee ...  Show more

IN THIS EPISODE OF THE HUMAN UPGRADE you’ll learn how to recognize your own sh*t and be a better partner in relationships. 

Want a sustainable partnership? Communicate and apologize; fight without fighting; identify codependent behavior (your own); ...

Most people never consider that fighting can be a useful and healthy practice for our relationships — and that “fighting well” is a skill that can be learned. We resist conflict until it builds up and we reach a breaking point, and then BAM! Our trauma runs the show and we ris ...

I got really really  vulnerable in this episode!  I am giving you an example of conflict that I experienced with my partner. (aaaand it all started with a  couch. LOL. )   Luckily there is a happy ending and of course, I worked it out with him. But hey there were some juicy learn ...  Show more