Episode 539: What Happens When You Stop Chasi...

How do you make an avoidant feel so safe that they finally let you in and don't pull away?In this episode, I reveal the 3 phrases that create the emotional safety an avoidant needs to stay connected and move a relationship forward.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR And ...  Show more

If your avoidant ex says they want to be friends after the break up, what does that mean? Do they still have feelings for you or are they trying to make the break up easier?In this video I explain why avoidants offer friendship, what’s happening emotionally beneath the surface an ...  Show more

The question is does the attraction return after an avoidant ex partner leaves the relationship. And how long does it take for that attraction to return if it does.

Remember, it’s also important to take into consideration of what the relationship was like and why it e ...

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship ...  Show more

Why do avoidant men run from intimacy, and how can you get them to bond without chasing? In this powerful conversation, Adam Lane Smith breaks down the core fears driving avoidant attachment styles and shares actionable tips to flip the script — so he starts chasing y ...

Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- 

- what makes them shut down? 

- what are the thinking when they shut down? 

- what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? 

- why do they walk away? 

And what you and your part ...