344: When You Have Kids Out Of Wedlock

Most relationships start with “I love you, you’re perfect”… and quickly turn into wanting your partner to change. The real problem isn’t usually whether they want to change—it’s that change is rarely A→B; it’s a process that requires understanding barriers, reducing shame, and bu ...  Show more

Emotional availability isn’t about feeling emotions loudly or perfectly — it’s about presence, regulation, and the ability to hold space without shutting down or exploding. Our capacity shifts based on stress, attachment history, neurodivergence, and what’s happening in our windo ...  Show more

We parents are often unknowingly (and knowingly) making some big communication mistakes with our children. These mistakes can cause resistance, resentment, and damage to your relationship. How can we communicate better? I talk to Jennie Rosier, Ph.D. about how to improve our comm ...  Show more

Trying to parent without being resourced is impossible. We all need and deserve a place to have our feelings. Someone to listen can help us move through difficult moments and unravel childhood unmet needs and just come to our parenting more centered because we have a place to ...

Are you a stepparent or dealing with divorce with kids? If so, you know that it can be a relationship mine-field. That’s why I invited Naja Hall, creator of VIPStepmom.com to talk about being a stepparent. What is it like to become a part of a family with kids who may be devastat ...  Show more

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a parent who seems like she wants to split from her partner. But she’s worried that if she leaves and ends up splitting custody, their son isn’t going to be well cared for when he’s with his father. Recommendations: Zak recommends ...  Show more