21 - Don't Drop It Like It's Hot - Communicat...

Have you ever been in an argument with your partner and thought:“If we could just go back and watch the tape, you’d see that I’m right.”We get it.Sometimes conflict feels like a bad instant replay review. Who said what? Who promised what? Who forgot? Who is remembering it correct ...  Show more

Therapy language can be incredibly helpful.Words like attachment style, avoidance, stonewalling, narcissism, and trauma can help us understand patterns that once felt confusing.But what happens when we start using those words against our partner in the middle of conflict?In this ...  Show more

Healthy disagreements are common in any relationship. Couples are bound to talk about so many different things that affect their relationship, their personal choices, their work or career, and their individual lives. But there are topics that are somehow uncomfortable to openly d ...  Show more

The scenario is that your partner makes a comment, you sense they are a little irritated. They may very well have a frustration but have expressed it with a mild (level 2) upset. Yet you are not in a conflict or argument. But as you talk back and forth, you start giv ...

Do you feel like your partner shuts you down or tells you whatever you want to hear in order to stop a conversation that makes them feel [anxious / tense / criticized / fill in the blank] even though that is not your intention? Or do you get emotionally flooded even *thinking* a ...  Show more

"We have communication issues" is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for marriage counseling or couples therapy. Because this is so common, and so frustrating, I am re-releasing my three-part "communication problems" podcast series over the next couple o ...  Show more