21 - Don't Drop It Like It's Hot - Communicat...

What happens when reaching for your partner no longer feels safe?There was a period in our marriage when EJ stopped initiating sex completely.It wasn't punishment. It wasn't giving up. We made the decision together because our sexual relationship had become complicated. EJ was ex ...  Show more

What if staying connected didn’t require another thing on your calendar?For busy couples, “date night” can start to feel like one more responsibility—find a babysitter, make a reservation, figure out what to do, and somehow find the energy to actually enjoy yourselves.We know tha ...  Show more

Healthy disagreements are common in any relationship. Couples are bound to talk about so many different things that affect their relationship, their personal choices, their work or career, and their individual lives. But there are topics that are somehow uncomfortable to openly d ...  Show more

The scenario is that your partner makes a comment, you sense they are a little irritated. They may very well have a frustration but have expressed it with a mild (level 2) upset. Yet you are not in a conflict or argument. But as you talk back and forth, you start giv ...

Do you feel like your partner shuts you down or tells you whatever you want to hear in order to stop a conversation that makes them feel [anxious / tense / criticized / fill in the blank] even though that is not your intention? Or do you get emotionally flooded even *thinking* a ...  Show more

"We have communication issues" is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for marriage counseling or couples therapy. Because this is so common, and so frustrating, I am re-releasing my three-part "communication problems" podcast series over the next couple o ...  Show more