#7: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap

A secure relationship isn’t one where nothing ever goes wrong — it’s one where the foundation is strong enough to hold the hard stuff. For many people (especially those with anxious attachment), insecurity doesn’t come from being “too sensitive,” but from being in dynamics that l ...  Show more

In this Ask Steph episode, I respond to a listener question about wanting more words of affirmation from a partner — but not wanting to feel like you're constantly asking for it. This is a really common tension, especially for people with anxious attachment. On one hand, words of ...  Show more

If you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant tra ...  Show more

In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.co ...  Show more

Ever dated an avoidant man or woman? They disappear when conflict starts or a conversation heats up? You feel like you get close to them, but never quite fully there? Maybe you are one yourself and other people feel ‘too needy, too much’, or that being independent and alone is sa ...  Show more

The attachment style - fearful avoidant, also known as ‘disorganized’ is often overlooked. Do you feel like you want to be close to people and want their love, but when you get close, you feel like it is a dangerous space to be in? Maybe you push people away before they can push ...  Show more