266. Personalization: Getting it Wrong v. Bei...

If you’ve ever answered “fine” when you weren’t really fine, this episode is for you. Saying “fine” may feel safe in the moment, but it trains your brain to ignore your desires, feelings, and needs, leaving you disconnected from yourself, burnt out, and frustrated.In this episode ...  Show more

Does receiving feedback make you spiral into shame, anxiety, or self-doubt? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener who struggles to separate her self-worth from professional critique. You'll hear why those intense feelings are actually avoided emotions showing up, ...  Show more

When you make a mistake, how do you talk to yourself? Is it the same way you would talk to a loved one or are you harsh and overly tough with yourself?

How much is your worth connected to your productivity and what you can do for others? Do you feel worthy of love simpl ...

Have you ever wondered what’s wrong with you? If you’re alive, chances are this thought has crossed your mind too often. Indulge me for a moment. What if nothing was actually wrong with you? What if there is a whole bunch of stuff that is right about you that you are not getting? ...  Show more

How do you talk to yourself when you’ve done something wrong? Maybe you miss a putt in golf or you mess up at work. In these moments, it is so common to beat ourselves up. To get angry and berate ourselves as if that will ensure we don’t mess up again. However, most of the time, ...  Show more

Today, I talk about failure and why it is part of the journey toward self mastery. How do we feel when we slip back into patterns we know to be wrong? What's the best way to handle this shame and guilt? How do you move on from it? 

—The Anxiety Recovery Program—