266. Personalization: Getting it Wrong v. Bei...

Women are taught that anger makes us difficult, irrational, or unlikeable, while men’s anger is often treated as justified or even heroic. So what happens when you learn to suppress your anger, even when something genuinely matters to you? In this episode, I share a coaching stor ...  Show more

What does nervous system regulation actually mean, and how does it relate to your emotions? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s question about the difference between feeling an emotion, experiencing nervous system activation, and being “regulated.”I explain wh ...  Show more

When you make a mistake, how do you talk to yourself? Is it the same way you would talk to a loved one or are you harsh and overly tough with yourself?

How much is your worth connected to your productivity and what you can do for others? Do you feel worthy of love simpl ...

Have you ever wondered what’s wrong with you? If you’re alive, chances are this thought has crossed your mind too often. Indulge me for a moment. What if nothing was actually wrong with you? What if there is a whole bunch of stuff that is right about you that you are not getting? ...  Show more

How do you talk to yourself when you’ve done something wrong? Maybe you miss a putt in golf or you mess up at work. In these moments, it is so common to beat ourselves up. To get angry and berate ourselves as if that will ensure we don’t mess up again. However, most of the time, ...  Show more