How to Stop Emotional Invalidation | E331

You've done the therapy. Read the books. Analyzed your childhood. You know EXACTLY why you keep repeating the same patterns. So why isn't anything changing? Here's the uncomfortable truth: Understanding your problems isn't the same as solving them. And waiting until you feel conf ...  Show more

You love your dad. He did his best. So why are you still desperately trying to prove you're good enough? Why do you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? Why can't you stop fixing everyone else's problems? And why does being the person who "has it all together" feel so ...  Show more

When emotions run high in marriage, one of the most common traps couples fall into is what to do with each other's feelings. Should you validate them? Should you challenge them? Or should you just offer a quick solution so you can move on? The truth is when emotional validation i ...  Show more

When couples are fighting, they say things like: I would like to feel more connected to my partner I want to feel understood by my partner I’m unheard and getting resentful I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight We s ...  Show more

This episode talks about the damage of invalidation, not being heard or having emotional capacity and how that shows up and can hurt us. 

I know how much it sucks to be distant from your partner, to walk on eggshells wondering if your next step is going to set off a landmine, feeling hurt frustrated abandoned overwhelmed and not sure how to repair. All couples are going to have fights and it's important to learn ho ...  Show more