184. Black & White Thinking

If you’ve ever answered “fine” when you weren’t really fine, this episode is for you. Saying “fine” may feel safe in the moment, but it trains your brain to ignore your desires, feelings, and needs, leaving you disconnected from yourself, burnt out, and frustrated.In this episode ...  Show more

Does receiving feedback make you spiral into shame, anxiety, or self-doubt? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener who struggles to separate her self-worth from professional critique. You'll hear why those intense feelings are actually avoided emotions showing up, ...  Show more

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Episode 175 - Do you tend to overcomplicate situations by thinking too much? Either you do something or you don't. If you think and worry about everything, you are still NOT doing it! There is no need to overcomplicate. Think in black and white, either you do it or you don't. ...

For anyone with a history of black-or-white thinking, trying something new or setting a new goal can be overwhelming…. Because when we operate in black-or-white thinking, we are operating in a PASS OR FAIL mentality. Then there is this other word I want to unpack: healthy discipl ...  Show more

Spiralers, we're calling you (and ourselves!) out. It's time to become aware of and heal our attachment to the far too common "ALL OR NOTHING" paradigm - where you are either going full throttle, pedal to the metal, or completely exhausted and avoiding things all together ...  Show more