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In this Ask Steph episode, I share my perspective on the phrase “if they wanted to, they would” — and why it’s sometimes helpful, but often oversimplified.I talk about the difference between basic effort and genuine capacity, and why assuming someone’s behaviour always reflects a ...  Show more

Few decisions feel as emotionally loaded as deciding whether to keep trying in a relationship or to walk away. There is no universal right answer — and for many people, especially those with anxious attachment, this question can feel endlessly destabilising.In this episode, I sha ...  Show more

In this episode, I share 5 ways in how you can best support your avoidant partner. We go deep into understanding their attachment traumas, the result of these traumas, and how other attachment types (especially anxious styles) can live more harmoniously with their avoidant partne ...  Show more

Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week, we’re checking in with Savannah, Ryan and Beth, Danica, and Amy to hear how our sessions have impacted their lives since we last spoke. All of them had trouble communicating with someone--a spouse, sibling, boyfriend--about an important issue in ...  Show more

It's normal for us to date someone with a different attachment style from our own. But how do we know if someone is compatible with us longterm? And are there certain behaviours that tell us the relationship is ultimately doomed?In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Audrey discuss a ...  Show more

En este Jueves de Lety & Ash nos llegó un audio preguntando cuándo es el momento de mudarse con una pareja. Nosotras nunca hemos estado ahí, pero también nos hemos hecho preguntas como ¿Cuándo es el momento de dar el siguiente paso? ¿Cómo saber siquiera si estás listo para dar el ...  Show more