How to Deal with a Defensive Partner | Relati...

You've done the therapy. Read the books. Analyzed your childhood. You know EXACTLY why you keep repeating the same patterns. So why isn't anything changing? Here's the uncomfortable truth: Understanding your problems isn't the same as solving them. And waiting until you feel conf ...  Show more

You love your dad. He did his best. So why are you still desperately trying to prove you're good enough? Why do you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? Why can't you stop fixing everyone else's problems? And why does being the person who "has it all together" feel so ...  Show more

Have you tried to raise an issue to your partner and rather than hear you, they whine, make excuses, or worse – they turn the issue on you? Maybe you are the person who responds in these ways, and you don’t know why you do this. In this podcast I will cover the common reasons peo ...  Show more

In this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When partners often respond in protective ways—like shutting down or snapping back—can feel frustrating and disheartening—especi ...  Show more

Defensiveness is a common reaction to criticism, where individuals become protective and guarded, perceiving a threat to their self-esteem or sense of identity. It is a natural response when feeling attacked, but if it becomes a habitual pattern, it can damage relationships and h ...  Show more

Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive?Defensiveness can be difficult to shift because of this very reason! But it also blocks our growth, so it’s worth examining. It doesn’t come naturally and can take time to learn, ...  Show more