#71: "Is he avoidant or just not that into me...

Pre-order my book, The Secure SelfIn today's episode, we're talking about self-abandonment and what it really takes to shift away from these well-worn patterns into a more secure version of ourselves that is grounded in self-worth. We discuss why self-abandonment feels so natural ...  Show more

In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who is feeling a lot of shame and self-blame for their role in the breakdown of a relationship, which they've come to recognise after working on themselves post-break-up. I share some thoughts on why shame and blame ca ...  Show more

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it’s easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you’re dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen ...  Show more

In this episode, I give a bit of insight into the mind of someone who has avoidant tendencies when they say that you’re too good for them or when they are hesitant to step up within a relationship/friendship. If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for ...  Show more

Have you ever found yourself perpetually in relationships that feel "close, but not quite"?

Do you yearn for a meaningful connection yet struggle to make it past the initial stages of getting close to someone?

Perhaps you've been hurt before, and now ...

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship ...  Show more