#73: Why We Want to Believe in "The One"

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self Being on the receiving end of someone's inconsistent behaviour and mixed messages is a familiar experience for many people with anxious attachment patterns. And yet, the ways we habitually respond — by trying to solve the puzzle, gather informat ...  Show more

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self on AmazonIn today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who recently stepped away from a long-term, long-distance relationship, over concerns that she and her partner were wanting different things. Despite having been the one to end things, ...  Show more

What if the love of your life isn’t one person, but many?In this video, I explore the myth of “the one,” the fantasy of being saved, and the deep loneliness that stems from chasing romantic perfection. We talk about why so many people feel unloved, unseen, and disconnected—becaus ...  Show more

This week on Time Alone, we challenge the template for the “perfect relationship” + the idea that there is one “right person” out there for us.Resources mentioned in the show, as well as how to connect with Siobhan can be found below.LINKS FROM THE EPISODE:Relationships, The Scho ...  Show more

You may have an idea of your perfect partner—the person who feels like the missing piece you’ve been searching for. When you finally meet someone who appears to tick all your boxes, you tell yourself, “This is it—the search is over!” 

But is that really what mak ...

Does the pursuit of a “soulmate” hold you back from finding love?

In this episode, Matt and the JAMS crew look at what happens when we get caught in the obsession of trying to find “The One” and how best to decide what you’re looking for in the right relationship.</ ...