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When couples start therapy they often tell me they want to communicate better, have tools for how to communicate, want the relationship to be more peaceful, and want a level of respect and kindness. Do you relate? I know I want a peaceful relationship with respect and kindness. W ...  Show more

A cheat sheet of loving phrases. In this podcast, I cover sweet-nothing examples. I give you a list of 21 sweet nothings you could try to see if they work for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only. 

What to do when your partner shuts down. Are you trying to have a relationship with a partner who avoids, defends or worse... won't talk at all? Few things are as frustrating, or as hurtful. It's hard NOT to get upset and angry when you're feeling rejected, unloved, or uncared fo ...  Show more

Do you feel like your partner shuts you down or tells you whatever you want to hear in order to stop a conversation that makes them feel [anxious / tense / criticized / fill in the blank] even though that is not your intention? Or do you get emotionally flooded even *thinking* a ...  Show more

The root of most relationship problems can often be traced back to one key element: communication. Ironically, the very thing that may have led you into relationship troubles - poor communication - is also the same tool that can lead you out. Whether the communication i ...

"We have communication issues" is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for marriage counseling or couples therapy. Because this is so common, and so frustrating, I am re-releasing my three-part "communication problems" podcast series over the next couple o ...  Show more