#112: When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Do Th...

Join the Secure Self Challenge hereToday's episode is part 3 of my Attachment & Conflict series, and we're talking all about how to transform the way you do conflict. I'll be sharing general tips and mindset shifts for how to approach conflict, as well as specific guidance for bo ...  Show more

Register for the Secure Self Challenge hereIn today's episode, we're talking once again about how attachment patterns shape our experience of conflict in relationships, with a particular focus on avoidant attachment. We talk about why avoidant folks instinctively pull back from c ...  Show more

Relationships take work. That's why you're here listening to this podcast. One thing you may be running into is an issue with your partner not wanting to work on the relationship with you. They may be resistant, indifferent or simply too busy. Listen to today's show to learn what ...  Show more

When one partner is ready and committed to doing the deep emotional work of improving a relationship, and the other partner is not quite there yet, it can feel like a difference that is impossible to bridge. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explores “Relational Self-Awarene ...

If you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant tra ...  Show more

Do you find yourself dreading hard conversations with your partner because they either shut down, get defensive, or turn it back on you? You’re definitely not alone!In this episode, I’ll break down why some partners withdraw, stonewall, or get reactive in conflict - and how it’s ...  Show more