435. Facts vs. Thoughts

Do you ever wonder if you're truly loving yourself in the way you deserve? Many of us know self-love is important, but what does it actually look like in practice? It's easy to get caught up in the idea of loving ourselves being a one-time act or a fleeting feeling, but it's actu ...  Show more

What if being nice is actually holding you back more than you realize? Most of us have been taught that being kind, agreeable, and easygoing is a virtue. But when "nice" turns into people-pleasing, avoiding the truth, or saying yes when you really mean no, it starts to cost you i ...  Show more

You probably already accept the idea that not all of your thoughts are true. With that in mind, what should you believe? On this episode, I explain why no one can tell you want to think and share a quite counterintuitive framework for evaluating thoughts and deciding whether you ...  Show more

Oftentimes the thoughts we think aren’t what’s most important; it’s our reaction to them that really matters. This week I’ll discuss why the way you react to your thoughts can be more important than the thoughts themselves, how your reaction may make your emotional experience wor ...  Show more

Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!).So, if your brain ...  Show more

We're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely loo ...  Show more