435. Facts vs. Thoughts

What's the difference between trying to control someone and trying to positively influence them? Whether it's your family, your coworkers, or even clients, we all have moments when we want to help others make better decisions or change their behavior. But are you influencing them ...  Show more

What does it really mean to live a rich life, and is it possible to feel rich even if your bank account doesn't look the way you want it to yet? If money feels emotionally charged for you, or you find yourself swinging between wanting more and feeling resentful, discouraged, or a ...  Show more

You probably already accept the idea that not all of your thoughts are true. With that in mind, what should you believe? On this episode, I explain why no one can tell you want to think and share a quite counterintuitive framework for evaluating thoughts and deciding whether you ...  Show more

Oftentimes the thoughts we think aren’t what’s most important; it’s our reaction to them that really matters. This week I’ll discuss why the way you react to your thoughts can be more important than the thoughts themselves, how your reaction may make your emotional experience wor ...  Show more

Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!).So, if your brain ...  Show more

We're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely loo ...  Show more