He Wants it Everyday, She Wants it Never

A young woman writes to Esther asking why she is interested in someone emotionally unavailable. Despite efforts to break this pattern, she realizes that some of her behaviors are rooted in a deep sense of control and the need to feel worthy of her parents' sacrifices. Esther walk ...  Show more

In this classic Esther Calling, Esther talks to a woman looking for clarity on whether she's being overly sensitive to her partner's critiques or if he is, in fact, gaslighting her. She has struggled with boundary setting before and she wonders if she is repeating the pattern her ...  Show more

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I are in our late 30s and we’ve been together for almost 20 years. We have 4 children and we always had a robust sex life until 2 years ago when everything changed. My husband gradually lost interest in sex and whenever we’d try, he would st ...  Show more

Sex after kids is NOT a myth. But it IS a challenge for many couples, including Khadeen and Devale (#couplegoals ain't all it's cracked up to be.) This week, they hash out where they stand now when it comes to making time for intimacy and making each other's satisfaction a priori ...  Show more

Tarah and EJ discuss sex and intimacy or the lack thereof when couples become comfortable which each other. www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com 

When one partner wants more sex than the other, things can get difficult for couples. Certified Sex Therapist and author Jessa Zimmerman joins us to talk about how to navigate desire discrepancy, and bring pleasure back to the relationship. Even if it's been ages since your last ...  Show more