#140: How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relat...

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self Being on the receiving end of someone's inconsistent behaviour and mixed messages is a familiar experience for many people with anxious attachment patterns. And yet, the ways we habitually respond — by trying to solve the puzzle, gather informat ...  Show more

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self on AmazonIn today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who recently stepped away from a long-term, long-distance relationship, over concerns that she and her partner were wanting different things. Despite having been the one to end things, ...  Show more

Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away.

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So you just realized you actually like someone? Hold up a second . . . When we fall for someone in the early stages of dating, it’s very easy to drop our standards and lose sight of our boundaries. We check our texts constantly. We cancel other plans for them. We agr ...

Why do we get so in our heads when we start dating someone new? In this episode, we dive deep into the most common fears people face in early dating — from getting too invested too soon, to navigating intimacy and exclusivity when someone’s seeing multiple people.With over 1,300 ...  Show more

Do you lay awake at night obsessing over why a new date or partner took 3 hours to respond to your text instead of their usual 30 minutes? Or maybe you start to feel avoidant when a new partner wants to hang out too much, and worry about losing independence in a relationship? Wha ...  Show more