#150: A Hard Truth About Setting Boundaries

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self Being on the receiving end of someone's inconsistent behaviour and mixed messages is a familiar experience for many people with anxious attachment patterns. And yet, the ways we habitually respond — by trying to solve the puzzle, gather informat ...  Show more

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self on AmazonIn today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who recently stepped away from a long-term, long-distance relationship, over concerns that she and her partner were wanting different things. Despite having been the one to end things, ...  Show more

This episode discusses what boundaries are, why they're important, and how to successfully set them in your relationship. 

One of many reasons we may feel anxious in relationship: we're actually feeling resentful and not communicating our needs and boundaries at all, or effectively! In this episode, I break down what boundaries are as well as what they aren't, some perspective shifts for recovering p ...  Show more

This week, I explain what a boundary is and why everything that you have previously known about boundaries is most likely wrong (or at least highly unhelpful). Join me as I show you what a boundary is not and how to tell if you’re ready to set a boundary and how to do it in a way ...  Show more

Does the thought of drawing boundaries make you nervous? Do you want to avoid it? Is it one of those things you know you should do but think to yourself, "I don't want to deal with it"? In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I will walk you through the rollercoaster of emotio ...