Dealing with Other People’s Defenses

Have you ever had a friend not text you back, and you’re certain that they’re mad at you? This is often a disruption in the process of mentalization: the ability to recognize that our thoughts and feelings might not be facts. Mentalization is a process we can all struggle with, b ...  Show more

Why does knowing we overthink not help us stop? Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss why rumination becomes a self-reinforcing habit, and why insight alone rarely helps. They distinguish between rumination and reflection, and talk about how balancing acceptance and agency can help us go ...  Show more

How much of your relationship tension comes from expectations that were never communicated? And what if changing the way you handle conflict could completely transform them?   While we often dedicate countless hours to our careers, many of us never devote time to the basics of em ...  Show more

What do therapists mean when they say someone has a "victim mentality"? In this episode, we unpack this flippant term and explore what’s going on underneath it. We recognize that "victim mentality" is applied to several distinct phenomena. We discuss the di ...

When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. 

In this episode of Decoding Attachment, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering acti ...

The APP has arrived! https://studio.com/apps/rebecca

If you like the podcast, you will love the Everyday Calm app. It is a daily program that teaches simple skills t ...