When Help Isn't Helpful

Grief. Even the word bears a heaviness like no other.We've all had a loss in some way or form. But perhaps there's a different way of looking at the word 'grief'.Because in order to grieve, you actually need something first. And that something may not be what you thought it would ...  Show more

A reflection on the quiet strength of choosing a pace that leaves room for the rest of your life. 

Sometimes, helping can hurt. When people are struggling, our impulse is to try to pull them back on their feet, when what they really need is for someone to sit beside them and ask, "What do you need? What can I do?" Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's websit ...  Show more

When someone is struggling, it's hard to know how to be helpful. Whether it's a struggling partner, co-worker or friend, this episode will help you show up in a more supportive, empowering way using a couple of simple steps. Be a good listener, without over supporting or taking o ...  Show more

We often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness pain—both theirs and our own. While advice and plans may seem helpful, skipping over empathy and validation can make others feel di ...  Show more

How much help is too much? This question hits close to home for many of us. We all want to be there for our friends and family, but there comes a point where we need to step back.  Offering too much help can end up making them dependent on us, preventing them from learning to sta ...  Show more