thoughts on sex

this week i come to the recent realization that i have control issues, which is deeply inconvenient because i genuinely thought i was one of the least controlling people. i get into the difference between trying to control other people and trying to control yourself, why fear mak ...  Show more

this week i talk about why saying no has always been so hard for me and what it’s cost me. i get into abstinence, therapy, relationships, and this pattern of changing yourself to fit other people's expectations. I talk about self-betrayal, the shame of staying in things too long, ...  Show more

Last week we unpacked the male gaze - this week, we’re discussing what happens when you like it. Is using your desirability as a power tool empowering… or just patriarchal? We’re talking capitalism, beauty standards, Julia Fox, my internal patriarchy committee, and yes, the one t ...  Show more

I get it.  Guys are HORNY, but when we are sleeping, can you please go pleasure yourself elsewhere?  Today we discuss the wrong place and wrong time for guys to jerk off, mothers who push their insecurities on us, and a member of the team who had some bomb sex in a real-life L ...

<ol><li>Want to know why so many men go to escorts? And why I believe, it' s not the best idea?</li></ol>

Or what erectile dysfunction has to do with porn? 

In another exciting episode I talk about the problems that come with porn addiction, getting used to escort ...

This is the episode where I say out loud what I’ve been living: I don’t even sleep with people anymore, because it never feels genuine. We’re taught as women that being chosen is the ultimate goal but what happens when men don’t even respect the women they choose? From baggy clot ...  Show more