#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationsh...

So many people will know the frustration of wanting to work on your relationship and being met with resistance, shutdown, or disengagement from a partner. When your sincere attempts at getting through and finding a path forward aren't landing, it's easy to feel hopeless—and confu ...  Show more

In today's episode, we're talking about retroactive jealousy — being an excessive preoccupation with a partner's romantic and/or sexual history, and feelings of intense insecurity and comparison as a result. This is a really common experience (one I used to struggle with myself!) ...  Show more

Many of us battle with a deep-rooted fear and anxiety that those we love will leave us. Maybe we have been hurt in a past relationship, or witnessed a messy divorce or the passing of ones we love and we have unconsciously learned to associated vulnerability, intimacy and love ...

Abandonment fear runs deep in the human psyche—it’s a primal instinct, woven into the fabric of how we connect with others. For some, this fear is manageable, an underlying hum that shapes relationships in subtle ways. But for those who struggle with emotion d ...

In this episode, I shed light on why abandonment is the root of our attachment insecurities, what abandonment looks like, how we respond to it in regards to our attachment style and my go-to process of reframing these fears into secure ways of operating. ————————— My Secure Self ...  Show more

If you’re constantly scanning for signs that someone’s about to up and leave, even when there’s no reason to worry, this episode is for you. We’re talking about: Why you might feel abandoned even when you logically know your partner isn’t going anywhere, How to face ...