How Avoidant Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies

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The Attachment Rollercoaster: How to Feel Without Losing Control

In this episode, we explore why love can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—full of intense highs and painful lows. You’ll learn how different attachment styles shape your reactions in relationships and, more importantly, how to stay grounded, self-regulate, and feel deeply wit ...  Show more

Feeling Like You’re the Problem in an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship

In this episode, we unpack why anxious attachers often feel like they’re “too much” in relationships — especially when paired with avoidants. I break down how this dynamic creates a distorted sense of responsibility, why you’re not actually the problem, and how unmet needs drive ...  Show more

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