Why Being Patient With An Avoidant Backfires

When you've been dumped, the urge to chase can feel overwhelming, especially if you still want your ex back.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains what actually changes when you stop chasing your ex, and why pulling back often shifts the dynamic in ways chasing never can.Get c ...  Show more

You've been in no contact and after weeks - or even months - of silence, your ex suddenly texts you. What does it actually mean, and should you respond right away or wait?Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals why exes reach out during no contact, what they're really looking fo ...  Show more

You’re doing “the talk wrong and I’ll help you fix it.

First, think - an avoidant brain is not a secure brain. You can’t talk to it like it’s an emotionally healthy brain.

We think we have to soft talk an avoidant but they are really looking at you thinking - “ I g ...

"Sorry, can I just say something?", "sorry to bother you!", "oh, sorry!" - sound familiar? If you find yourself saying "sorry" for taking up space, having an opinion, or even when someone else bumps into you, you're not alone. That tiny, five-letter word, meant for genuine remors ...  Show more

Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In thi ...  Show more

In today's episode I explain why you struggle to trust yourself and share the simple strategy to rebuild self-trust. I'll help you identify healthy vs unhealthy attachment to your therapist, recognize when you're protecting yourself in therapy, and understand the root causes of i ...  Show more