Taboo Ways To Make Avoidants Miss You

Blocking an avoidant ex feels powerful - but it often does the opposite of what you want.Ex back strategist Lucia explains why blocking can quietly backfire with avoidant attachment, what it does to their nervous system and the new rule you need to understand before you decide wh ...  Show more

When getting back with an ex, people usually say they're going to "take it slow", but rarely do. Dating expert Lucia explains why pace is the deciding factor, especially with an avoidant ex and why talking doesn't actually move things forward.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: i ...  Show more

You’re doing “the talk wrong and I’ll help you fix it.

First, think - an avoidant brain is not a secure brain. You can’t talk to it like it’s an emotionally healthy brain.

We think we have to soft talk an avoidant but they are really looking at you thinking - “ I g ...

"Sorry, can I just say something?", "sorry to bother you!", "oh, sorry!" - sound familiar? If you find yourself saying "sorry" for taking up space, having an opinion, or even when someone else bumps into you, you're not alone. That tiny, five-letter word, meant for genuine remors ...  Show more

Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In thi ...  Show more

In today's episode I explain why you struggle to trust yourself and share the simple strategy to rebuild self-trust. I'll help you identify healthy vs unhealthy attachment to your therapist, recognize when you're protecting yourself in therapy, and understand the root causes of i ...  Show more