7 Triggers That Make An Avoidant Break No Con...

A lot of breakup advice about no contact is either oversimplified or flat-out wrong.In this episode, I talk about why no contact is not right for every situation, why "respond so you don't look angry" is terrible advice, and the exceptions to no contact that most people don't kno ...  Show more

If they were consistent and then pulled away, don't assume it means you ruined it or they don't care.In this video, I break down the "Silence Loop" (the emotions that keep people from reaching out) and what to do so you don't make things worse.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: ...  Show more

You’re doing “the talk wrong and I’ll help you fix it.

First, think - an avoidant brain is not a secure brain. You can’t talk to it like it’s an emotionally healthy brain.

We think we have to soft talk an avoidant but they are really looking at you thinking - “ I g ...

"Sorry, can I just say something?", "sorry to bother you!", "oh, sorry!" - sound familiar? If you find yourself saying "sorry" for taking up space, having an opinion, or even when someone else bumps into you, you're not alone. That tiny, five-letter word, meant for genuine remors ...  Show more

Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In thi ...  Show more

In today's episode I explain why you struggle to trust yourself and share the simple strategy to rebuild self-trust. I'll help you identify healthy vs unhealthy attachment to your therapist, recognize when you're protecting yourself in therapy, and understand the root causes of i ...  Show more