What if the pattern isn’t the problem?

Why does silence feel so uncomfortable in relationships?In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore the hidden reason many of us rush to fill the space when our partner gets quiet, withdrawn, or dysregulated.In this episode, we explore:- Why silence feels triggering- The u ...  Show more

Have you ever done something “nice” for someone… but secretly felt exhausted, resentful, or unseen afterward? This episode is about the hidden relationship dynamic underneath that pattern.After a conversation with my grandma about boundaries, family dynamics, and generational rel ...  Show more

We're back with another Q&A episode this week! Today we'll be discussing some listener questions about using the word "love" in a relationship, polyamorous identity, and talking about non-monogamy with friends and family who think it's all about the sex. Join Dedeker and Orit Kru ...  Show more

In this episode, Allison is joined by her partner Clay for an honest and introspective conversation about mental well-being, facing insecurities, cultivating more self-awareness and removing the masks we wear to the outer world. We are still very much navigating this territory bu ...  Show more

Learn how to JournalSpeak ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.yourbreakawake.com/journalspeak⁠ In this "sister" episode to last week's Prison of Perfect, we unpack the concept of toxic shame—the deep, painful belief that “I am bad,” rather than “I did something bad.” We'll discuss how this co ...  Show more

Today we're discussing our drive to seek security in relationships, especially as economic uncertainty increases, and how sometimes, that can turn around and bite us. We'll be talking about why we seek security in relationships, some paradoxes of security, and as always, some too ...  Show more