206: When Your Partner Won't Do The Work

Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in our relationships, even when the surface issue changes? In this episode, we explore how everyday disagreements can activate childhood attachment wounds, leading us to protest, withdraw, or protect ourselves from connection. Learn how s ...  Show more

FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge⁠ ⁠Check out Relationship Academy! Healing attachment wounds begins with understanding how early relationships shaped the ways we seek connection, respond to conflict, and protect ourselves from rejection. In this episode, we explore how insecure atta ...  Show more

In today's episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship. This is an incredibly common dynamic, to have one partner who wants to actively work on things and another partner who is more resistant (which can oft ...

Are you in a relationship with someone who has issues they're not getting help for? It is painful to watch someone you love struggle, and it's also frustrating when you're not getting your needs met in a relationship. How do you help someone who won't help themselves? How long do ...  Show more

This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations! Btw— happy ...  Show more

When one partner is ready and committed to doing the deep emotional work of improving a relationship, and the other partner is not quite there yet, it can feel like a difference that is impossible to bridge. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explores “Relational Self-Awarene ...