075: Should we Go Ahead and Heap Rewards On O...

You promised yourself you wouldn't become your mother. Then your kid won't put their shoes on for the third time, and the voice that comes out isn't really yours. In this episode, I talk with Terese, a parent who grew up walking on eggshells around a mother who yelled often. She ...  Show more

Before my daughter was born, I made a book split into two halves. One cover said 'me.' The other said 'you.' I filled the 'you' side with a list of hopes for who she'd become. I had a lot of ideas about the person she should be before I'd ever met her. This episode marks ten year ...  Show more

How do you motivate kids and guide them to choose to do the right thing without rewards and manipulation? Sticker charts, bribery, grades, allowance, saying good job, you name it, we’ve tried it all. This week, we discuss how to internally motivate your kids with connection. Cong ...  Show more

In this episode I am talking to Dr. Jenicka, a Neuropsychologist & Clinical Scientist who made it her mission to help moms with evidence-based mental health and toddler tips. Today we are discussing: Different reward systems Why do reward systems have such a bad reputation The be ...  Show more

Is praising our children okay? Will they end up seeking a life of external validation? On this episode, I welcome Dr Jenicka Engler, developmental neuropsychologist, clinical scientist, and mom to discuss: If praise is really all bad? How to effectively use praise What the resear ...  Show more

In this episode, we're challenging the conventional use of rewards in potty training. Rewards can be counterproductive, leading to entitlement and a reliance on external motivation, and can even become punishments when a child is not yet capable of achieving the desired be ...