Depending on Abusive People - When Physical Pain Will Not End - Should You Take Someone Who Desperately Wants You

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Always take what sounds like a threat seriously

People who threaten, belittle, or use "jokes" about violence are practicing control, and they will gaslight you into submission if you don't take their threats or "jokes" seriously. Don't reward coercion with compliance. 

The past is the worst place to ruminate

Are you a victim of your past choices forever? If the future feels impossible because the past is unavoidable, it might be time to put away the mirror and forge the path you want. 

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