159. You Are Not the Reference Point

Does receiving feedback make you spiral into shame, anxiety, or self-doubt? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener who struggles to separate her self-worth from professional critique. You'll hear why those intense feelings are actually avoided emotions showing up, ...  Show more

If you’ve ever eaten a sandwich when you really wanted dumplings, turned down help you needed, or stayed silent in a meeting because it felt safer to bite your tongue, listen in. Your brain focuses on the short-term pain of asking for what you want and the anxiety or shame that f ...  Show more

When that person up ahead in the right turn only lane puts their blinker on way too late and starts to merge across the solid line towards your lane, what are your thoughts about that person? When you you distinctly recall asking your partner to empty the recycling bin yesterday, ...  Show more

In today's episode we are going to discuss feeling and fearing judgment from others as well as talking about the habit of judging others. We are going to really deep dive into how both impact our thoughts, actions and negatively impact our lives. As always, I am also going to tea ...  Show more

Today's episode is exploring the topic of what to do if you want to heal & grow... but your partner doesn't. This can be a really challenging experience, and is particularly common for those in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. Fortunately, this doesn't have to m ...

Overthinking, rumination and other negative thought patterns can drive us crazy in our personal lives and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to get out of your monkey mind and start living a happier, healthier life! In this episode with JF Benoist, we discuss rela ...  Show more