168. Not Normal - Conformity, Safety, and Fea...

There’s a word many of us use to feel validated or justified that actually keeps us stuck in self-doubt. Whether it sounds like “I deserve this” or “maybe I don’t deserve that,” this way of thinking quietly turns your life into a moral evaluation instead of a place where you get ...  Show more

When you’ve spent most of your adult life believing your body has to look a certain way to be desirable, it can feel impossible to think anything different. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener who feels stuck believing her body must change for men to be attracte ...  Show more

Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you're too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you've set…

This week, I want to talk about what happens when you're TOO strict with your s ...

I don't actually believe in the idea of "lowering" your standards.

I don't believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts…

And if you disagree, I'm ...

How often have you immediately blurted out "You too!" when somebody compliments you?

"You have such pretty hair!" "You too!"

"You're so smart!" "You too!"

"You're so beautiful." "You too!"

It's like ...

Did you miss the Hold the Standard masterclass? Good news—welcome to the replay!

When people talk about standards, I tend to notice one of three patterns: either someone is copying someone else's standards because they sound good, without stopping to ...