168. Not Normal - Conformity, Safety, and Fea...

Does your brain go straight to worst-case scenarios when you think about someone you love, and make you feel like it’s your job to prevent them all? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I coach someone through intense anxiety about their child’s future and explain why believing you ...  Show more

Do you ever tell yourself, “What I’m doing isn’t enough, so I might as well not bother”? That thought is exactly what’s keeping you stuck. In this episode, I’m teaching one of my favorite concepts for getting out of overwhelm and into action: The Infinite 1%. You'll see why doing ...  Show more

Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you're too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you've set…

This week, I want to talk about what happens when you're TOO strict with your s ...

I don't actually believe in the idea of "lowering" your standards.

I don't believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts…

And if you disagree, I'm ...

How often have you immediately blurted out "You too!" when somebody compliments you?

"You have such pretty hair!" "You too!"

"You're so smart!" "You too!"

"You're so beautiful." "You too!"

It's like ...

Did you miss the Hold the Standard masterclass? Good news—welcome to the replay!

When people talk about standards, I tend to notice one of three patterns: either someone is copying someone else's standards because they sound good, without stopping to ...