168. Not Normal - Conformity, Safety, and Fea...

This week, I break down the three foundational principles that will allow you to coach yourself effectively, no matter where you are on your thought work journey. If you’re new to the podcast, this is an essential episode to ground you in the basics of cognitive change. If you’ve ...  Show more

What’s the point of setting goals if you already feel how you want to feel? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about thought work and goals, and why it can feel like your whole motivational system breaks when you stop chasing goals just to feel differe ...  Show more

Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you're too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you've set…

This week, I want to talk about what happens when you're TOO strict with your s ...

I don't actually believe in the idea of "lowering" your standards.

I don't believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts…

And if you disagree, I'm ...

How often have you immediately blurted out "You too!" when somebody compliments you?

"You have such pretty hair!" "You too!"

"You're so smart!" "You too!"

"You're so beautiful." "You too!"

It's like ...

Did you miss the Hold the Standard masterclass? Good news—welcome to the replay!

When people talk about standards, I tend to notice one of three patterns: either someone is copying someone else's standards because they sound good, without stopping to ...