Jantelagen: What a Swedish Flatmate Taught Me about Fitting In versus Standing Out
There's an unwritten rule in Swedish culture called the Law of Jante: Don't think you're special. Don't stand out. Blend in. It’s the opposite of American individualism – and both sides have a shadow. In this episode, I explore what a Swedish flatmate, living in Italy, and years ...Show more
The Wrong Way to Listen
Turns out there’s not just one way to listen – there are four, at least according to the authors of Adaptive Listening: How to Cultivate Trust and Traction at Work.In this episode, I share when to use each level of listening, plus the question you should always ask yourself befor ...Show more
Happy People Fall in Love with Strangers More
Love isn't what most people think it is. It’s not a bond between partners or family, according to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson – it’s a micro-moment of positivity that resonates in your body when you connect with someone, even with strangers. And the research is clear: The more of the ...Show more
Mind Reading Isn't a Sign of Love
Have you ever thought: “If they really loved me, they’d just know without me having to say it.”But expecting someone to intuit your needs isn’t romantic – it’s magical thinking. In this episode, I talk about why unspoken expectations lead to disappointment, the shift you need to ...Show more
I Cried During a Knitting Lesson
I cried in my first knitting class and I didn’t know why – it’s not like I’m emotionally invested in making potholders out of yarn.In this episode, I explore the quiet pressure we put on ourselves without realizing it, and how we can give ourselves more grace.Read the transcript* ...Show more